Building Blocks

 Raising kids requires building blocks. In this case, I'm talking about teenagers. 

I vented to my OBGYN how my youngest decided on one high school instead of another. I was heartbroken at my daughters decision. As I cried and vented, my OBGYN told me the story of his middle child's journey to find his way, and how happy he is now. 

"The high school journey is just a building block to where they want to go. College is another building block. Then adulthood comes and many building blocks will present themselves as they mature. High school is just the beginning. In other words, it doesn't matter what high school she chose to go, its what she will do with the this building block that matters." 

Well, God bless my OBGYN. He's right. 

Trust the Lord that He will keep my daughters on his path not mine. 

Hello Again

 Test... test...

I'm going to do my best and get back at blogging. Social Media makes it easier to do it on their sites. 

But here, feels more personal, plus, don't think any one bothers to read this, so its a plus. 

More posts coming up. Promise this time. 

Billy - My Baby Boy (2006-2019)

I'm not good at grieving. I suck at it.

I spent all day crying for my 13 year old chihuahua dog, Billy.

He was diagnosed with an enlarged heart back in May of 2018. Vet said it is very common among small dogs. The news hit me like a brick. Since May, Billy began to take meds. His cough only increased with a couple of more visits to the vet.

The vet said this is the worst thing that can happen to a dog, because the way they die its not easy.

It was brutal.

We buried him in our garden.

I got Billy through a co-worker who didn't want him after only spending a weekend with him. He was only 8 weeks old.

I raised him with love, discipline and lots of spoil moments. Billy was my first dog since my childhood dog died when I was 8.

In the beginning, John and I couldn't have babies, so Billy became my baby boy. He couldn't do anything wrong. Not chew on my designer shoes nor have little accidents around the house.

I miss him so much. I miss his personality.

He was the pack leader. The house is not the same without you.

I Wrote a Novel

I just finished my last draft of my novel, 100,000 word novel. One of the things I have accomplished as a stay-at-home mom.

Titled: THE CURSE OF THE EMERALD STONE

Growing up, I loved watching Indiana Jones and Romancing the Stone movies.

I loved the thrill and adventure of these movies.

Don't judge, it took me 5 years to finish it, not because I didn't have a beginning, an end, or a plot. I had it all, but I was grieving my father who died tragically, and I had no chance to heal our broken relationship.

I gave up writing several times, and my husband picked me back up. I believe in my story and love it. But writing it is only the easy task. Publishing my story will be the hardest. Accepting all the rejections and pushing forward to see it come to life.

Wish me luck.

Stay at Home Mom looking for Part Time job

Looking to come back to work but the hours just don't work. Wondering why there isn't yet a place of work where they can hire stay at home moms.

We are loyal, we thrive to help our family anyway we can to fight off the guilt of STAYING at home, although, it is the case for me, but not for some.

Stay at home moms, want to to desperately EARN money to help our household, and husbands.

I've tried to come up with a home business but have failed (3 times.) I thought third time was the charm but it wasn't.

I did write a cool 100K page story. Currently writing my synopsis which is harder than writing 100,000 words!

I do love my story. My husband does too. He was impressed, so were two friends of mine who helped edit the story and give me their constructive criticism.

Rant over. Back to the kitchen and cleaning.

Sandra Seaman.

Vote Today

Vote today or shut up, some say.
Vote today or live with the consequences, others say.
Vote today or regret who you vote for later, people say.
Vote your conscious or not.

Either way you vote or don't vote, half of the population will celebrate and the other will mourn and whine and call it corruption.

Democracy never wins. Its just it.

Back From Hiatus

I quit doing my blog after I was laid off from my full time job.

Let's see if I can do this again. MUST FIND PURPOSE!!!!!!!

13 things I've learned in 13 years of marriage

 Well, few people know that our ride to 13 years of marriage has had it's ups and the very ugly downs. But here we are and  we are not taking it lightly anymore but conscious of every step and decision we make together. 

So here's my 13 things that I have learned. 

1. Marry Your Equal

Make sure there are a lot more things in common that you agree and share together so that there will be less unhappy surprises.

2. Marriage is Hard. Period.

As the time goes by, you might wondered if you partnered with the wrong guy, but reality sets and you REALLY start getting to know each other's flaws. Do not run from it but tackle it with patience and grace. 

3. Get over it!

We are not perfect! I like things  a certain way and I have to accept and learn that his shoes left on the kitchen counter may not be as dirty as they look. 

4. It's What You Do that Counts. 

It doesn't matter if I'm not a morning person or that he's not a late night person. Work on a happy medium. 

Make each other feel special for how much they mean to you. 

5. Strangest Things Do Work!

When they happen don't over analyze it. Take it and run with it. 

Such is the case when we bought a brand new car in both of our names a month before our divorce was to be finalized. Thankfully, the car helped us her to Houston and no divorced happened.

6. People Change. 

I did. I see my wedding gown and I dont like it anymore so off to goodwill it went. 

When two people help each other to grow, it will flourish. 

7. Touch

Hold hands. Always. 

8. Dialog

Dialog about each other's feelings. It's is important to know what your spouse is going through. Never judge their feelings or tell them they shouldn't feel a certain way. Instead say; tell me more. 

9. Kids

When you have kids everything changes! 

Including your marriage and it should. It should make it stronger! Team up and be on the same page. You got differently personalities to raise and accommodate in your life. But never forget to make time for each other. And lead by example. 

10. Planning 

Always take into consideration their ideas and suggestion as you would like him to take yours. You will be happier and not fight so much on the road. 

11. Don't Forget Who You Are

You are still an individual with needs and wants. If your spouse respects your individuality, you chose correctly. 

12. Help!

Don't ever think you are the only one with marriage problems. Seek help before it's too late. I made that mistake. 

12. Live, Love, and Laugh! 

Together! Even when he farts and wakes you up from deep sleep! 

13. Forgiveness

Know how to truly forgive. 

It is always a struggle and not an easy task but forgiveness can open the doors to unimaginable things. 

Happy 6!

Resolutions - How I hate them

Resolutions are necessary for those that can't stick to what they set out to do. Like me. So, in order to keep my belly from growing like I'm having multiple kids; I've decided to run and skip on dessert and not give myself a time frame to lose the weight. So whatever long it takes, I will commit to be healthier! 

Whatever long it takes!

A Happy 4th Birthday for Raquel!

My baby girl, Raquel, turned 4 on November 3rd. Where has the time gone! Oh yeah, they have turned my hair gray and given me more wrinkles. But that's okay, I'm loving every minute of motherhood. I just wish I could hold her when she was a week old again.

All Raquel wanted was her ice cream cake and her Daddy had to photo bomb her picture.

And he photo bomb this one too!

Sofia was happy because she got a couple of presents from Grandma Libby just because. I was never that lucky. 

Love my baby!

Her school birthday crown!

Latest Happenings...

I shall start working more on my blog like used to. It is looking rather empty and lonely without my crazy thoughts and pictures. So, here's my first try.

Sofia's first Kindergarten play date with Ginny at the Purple Cow. 

 Sofia and her friends!

My curly baby and Billy. He likes her.

We finally did our kitchen floor on Labor day. Well, John did. I just watched him do it. But it was my idea to change the floors!

He got a burger and beer after he was done.

My baby! I love him forever and ever!

My cuddeler! I love hugging him!

His name is Lenny.

Being goofy!

When she gets sick, she gets the star treatment in bed! All day long!

I love this picture! 

Hello Kitty Posing! Strike a pose!

They eat that too. 

Sofia reading to Raquel

John trying to read while stuff started happening on top of him...

Their idea!

My baby boys!